Liquid Silk soaks in too quickly
posted: 07/24/2006 12:00 am
Dear Dr. Myrtle,
I am using Liquid Silk for my vaginal dryness, but I find that when I use it as a lubricant during intercourse, it disappears quickly and doesn’t provide much slipperiness. Is there anything I can do to make it last longer, or is there another lubricant you can recommend for use during intercourse?
Liquid Silk is a great moisturizer, certainly. However, people often find that while it works wonders on their dryness and general vulvar skin tone, it doesn’t stay slippery for long during intercourse.
What sometimes happens in women with moderate to severe vaginal/vulvar dryness is that the Liquid Silk does its job almost too efficiently, soaking into the tissues right away to moisturize them but not sticking around on the surface to provide slippery sensations for comfortable penetration. Think of it like hand lotion - the drier your hands are, the more quickly the lotion will soak in.
We’ve found that in this case, it’s best to use the Liquid Silk for moisturizing massage of the vaginal/vulvar tissue, then use a silicone lubricant on top of it for slipperiness during intercourse. Before you have intercourse, either you alone or you and your partner can massage the Liquid Silk into your vaginal and vulvar tissues for about five minutes. You can even make it a part of foreplay if you want.
After the massage, apply a small amount of a silicone lubricant (Eros, Pink, System Jo, ID Millennium or UberLube) to these same areas. The Liquid Silk will have soaked in, bringing moisture to the tissues, and the silicone lubricant will form a protective seal on top of that moisture, keeping it in your tissues and providing a slick surface on top of your skin to make penetration comfortable (sort of like putting on foot lotion, then cotton socks to hold the moisture in). Because silicone lubricant doesn’t soak into the skin, it will remain slippery - even in water - until you choose to wash it off with soap and water (so this is also a neat trick if you want to have intercourse in the bath, shower, pool or hot tub!).
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